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Posted by on Apr 15, 2013 in Random Facts, Trivia and Weirdness, Thoughts on Writing | 4 comments

K is for Kismet

kismet + raggedKismet. It’s just fun to say, isn’t it? Kismet.

Even if I didn’t like the way it looked or sounded, I would still be a fan of kismet because I like it’s meaning. Basically, it’s another word for fate or destiny. While I’m no fan of luck, I don’t particularly like the words fate or destiny either. There’s something very heavy-handed about them to me. Kismet seems lighter, even if it has the same “meant to be” connotations.

So let’s talk about my good pal kismet, shall we?

Real life kismet in action

I’m probably such a big fan of kismet because of the way I’ve seen it work in my own life. I could tell you the story of how I traded in a career in finance for one in freelance writing, which later gave me the time I needed to begin publishing my fiction. But it’s not particularly interesting and it’s rather drawn-out.

Instead, I want to talk about love.

I officially met my husband shortly after I turned 18, right before high school graduation, but we’d been having those “eyes connect across a crowded room” moments for months before that. The first time I laid eyes on him was when my friend didn’t want to deliver a note to a Spanish teacher who was always uber creepy to her. I took the note instead – teacher was 100% normal with me, which is a bummer because I was looking forward to whatever story of death and decay he was planning to spin as the reason for why the student in question wasn’t in class – and our eyes met for the first time while I was waiting for the teacher to write a response to something. I didn’t find out until a few weeks ago that my husband actually tried to find an excuse to leave class every time he saw me so that he could talk to me.

Just as well. Timing was wrong anyway.

Flash forward to the end of the school year. I’m single for once and totally not looking for a new guy. Guess who’s the best friend of my friend’s new boyfriend?

If you didn’t guess Thomas Katt then you’re REALLY bad at this game.

Kismet, y’all. Couldn’t be anything short of it when you consider that my friend was more of a frenemy and we just as easily could’ve been sworn enemies that week as best good pals.

Kismet in fiction

I know I should probably be standing here railing against kismet in fiction as an overused plot device, but…I can’t. It’s hard to dismiss kismet as just a plot device when I’ve seen it at work in my own life time and again.

I do try not to be heavy-handed with it though. Just because I’m a kismet believer doesn’t mean I need to beat all my readers over the head with it.

But it’s still there.

When I write, I sometimes have couples that get involved in love triangles or even rectangles. I’m sure it could be argued that my characters don’t always end up with the person readers wanted them with, but they end up with the person they’re supposed to be with. The way I look at it, each character has that one perfect relationship fit, whether they realize it or not. Granted, it sometimes takes more than one book to get the characters to set their own egos aside and fall in line with kismet’s plans for them.

While kismet is more a behind the scenes player in my suspense series, it’s going to be a more in your face integral part of the story once I begin the paranormal trilogy that I have under development. Probably shouldn’t say much about that right now though. I’d have to get into the difference between twin flames and soul mates and then there’d be this whole philosophical metaphysical discussion that I’m not quite ready to get into.

But it’s coming, y’all.

What are your thoughts on kismet? Does it seem like a cheap trick in fiction? Anyone else have real life kismet in action stories to share?

Next up: L is for Love and Lust

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  1. Aww. Cute story! Did you two crazy kids get married right out of high school? :)

    I actually met my hubby in a chat room for a musician we both liked…he lived several states away…during the few couple of months that we both ever frequented chat rooms. I suppose it is kismet that he didn’t turn out to be a murderer or child predator sent to prey on my stupid sixteen year old self. We’ve been together so long…it is weird to think that is how it all began!

    Very intrigued by your paranormal trilogy! What the heck is a twin flame? When will we be seeing that!? I also like the “L is for Love and Lust”…sounds good to me! ;)

    • Got married about a year and a half later. It’s still hard for me to believe our 13-year anniversary is coming up later this year.

      The one time I was ever in a chat room, there was a group of boys in there typing “Mur” over and over again so that no one could talk. At one point they started yelling at people to join their mur cult. No desire to go back after that. Guess I would’ve needed to be in a non-mur chat room to get preyed upon. ;)

      I’m hoping to get that started next year, but…Not sure yet. It’s still causing a dilemma because sex is all intertwined with all the paranormal story elements and the main character is still an underage high school girl. I don’t particularly want to get banned from Amazon. A twin flame is basically what people think a soul mate is. Soul mates aren’t romantic in nature, but their meaning has been twisted around.

      • Ah, I see. Twin flame sounds more fun than soul mate…

        Would that really get you banned on Amazon? I mean, it’s just fiction? I’d think those situations are not unheard of, and certainly something that happens in real life even if it is not appropriate. As long as you’re not glorifying a kiddy porn ring or something I’d think it’d be okay to tell the story. I would think there are countless examples in literature of young girls getting involved with/married off to older men. I can’t remember if Jane was underage, but wasn’t Mr. Rochester more than twice her age?

        • I think it’s one thing to have a guy having a sexual relationship with a minor in the book and another to actually write the scenes. Amazon’s rules on inappropriate content are fairly ambiguous. I’d rather not give them a reason to pull my books (or my account) if I can avoid it.

          But yeah…happens all the time, in real life and in literature.

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